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There is so much political correctness and self-interest that it is very difficult to tell from the outside looking in how the system works (even for a relatively self-sufficient person like myself). This blog is one solution to this information vacuum.
Unfortunately, I cannot provide direct legal advice (that would be practicing law without a license). My solution is to give a blow-by-blow account of what I learned about the legal system and divorce industry in my three year struggle and give my personal opinion of what I did right and wrong during that time. Hopefully, this will help those following in my footsteps.
My approach is make a series that roughly chronicles my three year odyssey. I would encourage readers to comment and add to my insights and point out my oversights. I look forward to the journey.
March 4, 2008 at 8:39 am
March 29, 2008 at 6:51 pm
I am a father of two who has been divorced for about three years, as well. I too was amazed at the lack of information and rescources available to a working-class man trying to have a fair and respectful divorce.
I ended up with a pretty fair deal, being awarded visitation 2 out of 3 weekends, plus one day per workweek, and half of all holidays / vacations.
Unfortunatey, as time has gone on, my ex has learned that if she does not let the kids come see me, there is almost nothing I can do about it. My lawyer tells me that it’s a very expensive, time consuming process to challenge her for custody, with no gaurantee of winning.
Worst of all, after three years of their mother trash-talking me I’ve started seeing signs in the kids of mental anguish at being in the middle. In other words, if I continue to fight for me rights and my children, I make life more mserable for them and more expensive for me.
Any suggestions?